How to Improve Your Relationship with Partner?

Improving relationship is one of the biggest concerns of people as the relationships are not lasting much. The divorce rate and breakup rate in increasing in a significant rate. Last year, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorced. The divorce rate for successive marriages is even getting higher. We have discussed on friend zone issue, sex issue in relationship in our previous articles. Also we have discussed some issues related to relationship mistakes in our posts. Now, we are trying to find out the ways to improve your relation with partner. 

Reason behind increase of the breakups and divorce rate

What are the reasons behind this? Psychologists find some reasons behind this like:

The changing norms of society:

The changing norms in the societies is vital in explaining the divorce rate rises because the relationships is now give-and take issue. And it is easy to get divorced now than past. 

Rising expectations of marriage:

Divorce rates have increased because of couples expecting more from their marriage and relationships. This leads, to discontent and the feeling that they want more, leading to divorce easily.

Growing secularized thought:

Secularization decreasing and this has led to marriages and relationships becoming less sacred and important. 

Increase of the nuclear family:

Family is important to keep the bonding. But recently, due to economic and social need, the number of nuclear family is increasing. It has a negative impact on the relationship.

Abridged roles of the family:

Some people believe that there is no need to a family, this mean that there is less need to be married, resulting in higher divorce rates now a days. 

How to Improve Your Relationship with Partner:

The most important thing is to know each other well. This is the first thing to do. Now, men-women start to stay or live together without knowing each other. It is harmful to the relationship. Even after getting in relationship, marriage- the men-women do not know about his/her partner. So do the first thing first. 

Questions to improve your relationship:

It is an old study but still has the significance in terms of improving relationships. Arthur Aron, Interpersonal Relationships Lab, Stony Brook University in New York has done the study. The researcher has identifies some questions, which can be very useful to improve your relationship if you know the answers. This was published in "The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness" in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin (1997). Here are the questions to improve your relationship:

1. When did you last sing to yourself? Or to someone else?

2. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

3. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

4. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

5. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

6. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

7. What is your most treasured memory?

8. What is your most terrible memory?

9. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?

10. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

11. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

12. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

13. Take four minutes and tell you partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

14. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?

15. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

16. Is there something that you've dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?

17. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

18. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

19. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

20. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

21. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen

22. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

23. What does friendship mean to you?

24. What do you value most in a friendship?

25. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

26. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?

27. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

28. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

29. Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "we are both in this room feeling..."

30. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to say? Why?

31. What would constitute a perfect day for you?

32. Complete this sentence "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..."

33. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

34. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.

35. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?

36. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

Try to know these answers and I hope you get the right way to improve your relationship with your partner. Stay in touch. Have fun.